Emotional Education.

Chatted with my friend just now and had gotten some really different insights on how a relationship works and fails.

"Feelings come and go. It is how we choose to preserve what we had chosen in the first place and make the best out of it instead of fluctuating back and forth."

"There will always be attractions. It is about remembering the other things about the special person that keeps you on track."

"Not everything is about feelings. You can have feelings for a lot of people. But it's a lot of other things that keep you on track with that special someone."

"You can have feelings for many people, but it is your mentality that manages your life. You should not let your feelings take over, or divorce will be in the near future."

"You should know how attraction works. No gifts can make the difference if there isn't enough attraction in the first place. She may be impressed by the effort that one had put in to go after her (which guy doesn't do that when they go after the girl?) but what is more important is whether the guy continue loving the girl after they are together."

"No effort can change anyone's heart if there is no certain amount of attraction. That is a fact."

"Feelings can be developed and also, be cut away. It is how we see it and how we think that decide how smooth things go."

In fact, one thing my friend said made me think.

"She left you; you don't owe her anything. You owe yourself a lot more for dwelling in your own misery."

I finally realised that I owed myself a lot during this period of time.

It is not about her that I have to overcome. It is not about time that heals. It is not about the advice all my friends had given me.

It is about fighting this emotional drama and overcoming the mental barrier in me.

Thank you people. And good night.